Mjafton nj\u00eb mendim ndryshe p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar n\u00ebse ai \u00ebsht\u00eb emocionalisht i fort\u00eb apo i paq\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm \u2013 psikolog\u00ebt shpjegojn\u00eb shenjat q\u00eb nuk duhen injoruar<\/p>\n
Zgjedhja e partnerit p\u00ebr lidhje apo martes\u00eb shpesh duket si nj\u00eb loj\u00eb fati: n\u00eb fillim gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb e bukur, romantike dhe e idealizuar, por vet\u00ebm m\u00eb von\u00eb, p\u00ebrmes situatave t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme dhe bisedave t\u00eb zakonshme, zbulohet karakteri i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb dhe forca emocionale e personit.<\/p>\n
Psikiatri austriak Sigmund Freud, babai i psikanaliz\u00ebs, propozoi nj\u00eb truk shum\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb psikologjik q\u00eb mund t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb vler\u00ebsoni sa i fort\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb partner emocionalisht dhe mend\u00ebrisht, para se t\u00eb hyni m\u00eb thell\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje.<\/p>\n
\u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb \u201cpartner i dob\u00ebt\u201d?<\/p>\n
N\u00eb kontekstin e nj\u00eb lidhjeje, \u201cpartner i dob\u00ebt\u201d nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb fizikisht i dob\u00ebt, por emocionalisht dhe mend\u00ebrisht i paq\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm:<\/p>\n
\u2022 e ka t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrballet me konfliktet
\n\u2022 humb shpejt durimin
\n\u2022 e ka t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb pranoj\u00eb mendime t\u00eb ndryshme
\n\u2022 shmang p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb
\n\u2022 krijon tension n\u00eb vend t\u00eb qet\u00ebsis\u00eb<\/p>\n
K\u00ebto modele sjelljeje mund ta d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb lidhjen, sepse nuk tregojn\u00eb pjekuri, empati dhe gatishm\u00ebri p\u00ebr rritje t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, transmeton Telegrafi.<\/p>\n
Truku i Frojdit: nj\u00eb test i thjesht\u00eb q\u00eb tregon shum\u00eb<\/p>\n
Frojdi k\u00ebshillonte: shprehni nj\u00eb mendim q\u00eb e dini se \u00ebsht\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm nga i tij dhe v\u00ebzhgoni reagimin<\/p>\n
Si duket kjo n\u00eb praktik\u00eb<\/p>\n
Paraqisni nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim ndryshe. Thoni di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ndryshon nga mendimi i tij, p\u00ebr shembull p\u00ebr nj\u00eb situat\u00eb, p\u00ebr bot\u00ebkuptimin apo p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen tuaj.
\nV\u00ebzhgoni m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e reagimit. N\u00ebse b\u00ebhet nervoz, i shqet\u00ebsuar, ngrit z\u00ebrin ose ju sulmon verbalisht, kjo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shenj\u00eb e munges\u00ebs s\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebris\u00eb emocionale dhe brisht\u00ebsis\u00eb.
\nN\u00ebse q\u00ebndron i qet\u00eb, fton n\u00eb bised\u00eb, ofron alternativa dhe tregon gatishm\u00ebri p\u00ebr diskutim, kjo tregon forc\u00eb emocionale dhe pjekuri.<\/p>\n
Ky \u201ctest\u201d nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb tregues i gjith\u00e7kaje, por mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm, sepse shfaqet edhe kur lidhja \u00ebsht\u00eb ende n\u00eb faz\u00ebn e idealizimit.<\/p>\n
Shenja t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb dob\u00ebsis\u00eb emocionale<\/p>\n
Psikolog\u00ebt p\u00ebrmendin edhe disa sjellje q\u00eb shpesh tregojn\u00eb munges\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00ebsis\u00eb emocionale n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje:<\/p>\n
\u2022 shmangia e problemeve ose konflikteve \u2013 nuk d\u00ebshiron biseda t\u00eb hapura
\n\u2022 mungesa e mb\u00ebshtetjes n\u00eb momentet e v\u00ebshtira \u2013 nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i pranish\u00ebm kur duhet m\u00eb shum\u00eb
\n\u2022 komunikim i dob\u00ebt \u2013 e ka t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb shpreh\u00eb ndjenjat ose shmang bised\u00ebn
\n\u2022 humb shpesh durimin \u2013 ofendohet shpejt ose b\u00ebhet mbrojt\u00ebs
\n\u2022 munges\u00eb e planit dhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb \u2013 nuk merr p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr angazhime n\u00eb lidhje<\/p>\n
K\u00ebto tipare mund t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb munges\u00eb t\u00eb pjekuris\u00eb emocionale, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore p\u00ebr lidhje afatgjata.<\/p>\n
Pse \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme<\/p>\n
Lidhjet dhe martesat nuk testojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm dashurin\u00eb dhe pasionin, ato testojn\u00eb edhe:<\/p>\n
\u2022 aft\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur konfliktet s\u00eb bashku
\n\u2022 q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb emocionale n\u00eb momentet e v\u00ebshtira
\n\u2022 gatishm\u00ebrin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u rritur dhe ndryshuar s\u00eb bashku<\/p>\n
Truku i Frojdit, edhe pse i thjesht\u00eb, mund t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb si nj\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb q\u00eb zbulon stabilitetin psikologjik dhe thell\u00ebsin\u00eb e karakterit.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb fund \u2013 partner apo njeri?<\/p>\n
I dob\u00ebt apo i fort\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjykim p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebnuar, por m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar pjekurin\u00eb emocionale. Nj\u00eb burr\u00eb emocionalisht i fort\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb nuk shfaq kurr\u00eb ndjenja, por ai q\u00eb di t\u2019i menaxhoj\u00eb, t\u2019i komunikoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb reagoj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb konstruktive.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Mjafton nj\u00eb mendim ndryshe p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar n\u00ebse ai \u00ebsht\u00eb emocionalisht i fort\u00eb apo i paq\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm \u2013 psikolog\u00ebt shpjegojn\u00eb shenjat q\u00eb nuk duhen injoruar Zgjedhja e partnerit p\u00ebr lidhje apo martes\u00eb shpesh duket si nj\u00eb loj\u00eb fati: n\u00eb fillim gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb e bukur, romantike dhe e idealizuar, por vet\u00ebm m\u00eb von\u00eb, p\u00ebrmes situatave t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-78522","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/78522","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=78522"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/78522\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=78522"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=78522"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=78522"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}