{"id":13062,"date":"2025-03-31T19:46:27","date_gmt":"2025-03-31T19:46:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/2025\/03\/31\/adolescence-pse-ky-filmi-i-ka-tronditur-te-gjithe\/"},"modified":"2025-03-31T19:46:27","modified_gmt":"2025-03-31T19:46:27","slug":"adolescence-pse-ky-filmi-i-ka-tronditur-te-gjithe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/2025\/03\/31\/adolescence-pse-ky-filmi-i-ka-tronditur-te-gjithe\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cAdolescence\u201d\/ Pse ky filmi i ka tronditur t\u00eb gjith\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb e urt\u00eb e vjet\u00ebr afrikane thot\u00eb: \u201cDuhet nj\u00eb fshat p\u00ebr t\u00eb rritur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb\u201d<\/em>. Po sikur fshati t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kalbur? Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb mendova pasi pash\u00eb \u201cAdoleshenca\u201d, serialin televiziv me 4 pjes\u00eb q\u00eb po thyen t\u00eb gjitha rekordet e transmetimit n\u00eb Netflix.<\/span><\/p>\n

Prind\u00ebrit pas filmit po kuptojn\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb: nuk mjafton vet\u00ebm t\u2019i mbajm\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, t\u00eb transmetojm\u00eb vlera dhe t\u00eb praktikojm\u00eb dialogun, duhet t\u00eb kufizojm\u00eb pajisjet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb si n\u00eb prezantimin e tyre, ashtu edhe n\u00eb p\u00ebrdorimin e tyre. <\/span><\/p>\n

Telefonat inteligjent\u00eb t\u2019i lejojm\u00eb pas 14 vje\u00e7, mediat sociale pas 16 vje\u00e7, t\u00eb kufizojm\u00eb or\u00ebt e kaluara para ekranit (si\u00e7 kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb edhe t\u00eb famsh\u00ebm si Messi, Ronaldo dhe Novak Djokovich). Duke pasur nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb, s\u00eb cil\u00ebs do t\u2019i jepet nj\u00eb smartphone vet\u00ebm n\u00eb fund t\u00eb klas\u00ebs s\u00eb tet\u00eb dhe duke qen\u00eb e vetmja familje n\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb shkoll\u00ebn q\u00eb e b\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb, shikimi i \u201cAdoleshenca\u201d m\u2019i hapi syt\u00eb: askush nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i sigurt. Dhe menj\u00ebher\u00eb u ndjeva e tronditur.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cAdoleshenca\u201d ndjek historin\u00eb e familjes \u201cshum\u00eb normale\u201d Miller, n\u00eb nj\u00eb provinc\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl angleze, qet\u00ebsia e t\u00eb cil\u00ebs nd\u00ebrpritet papritur nga nj\u00eb bastisje e armatosur e policis\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebngjes. Djali \u201cshum\u00eb normal\u201d 13-vje\u00e7ari Jamie, i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn mosh\u00eb me vajz\u00ebn time, arrestohet me akuz\u00ebn e vrasjes s\u00eb nj\u00eb shoqeje shkolle, Katie.<\/span><\/p>\n

4 or\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb, me p\u00ebrfundimin e serialit, ne e dim\u00eb se djali \u00ebsht\u00eb fajtor, por jo shum\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr se pyetja, \u201cSi mund t\u00eb ndodhte kjo?\u201d.<\/em> Eddie, i luajtur nga Stephen Graham, bashk\u00eb-krijues dhe bashk\u00eb-skenarist i serialit, duket se jep nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje n\u00eb sken\u00ebn e fundit: ai p\u00ebrqafon arushin prej pelushi t\u00eb Jamie, i l\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb shtrat n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e tij t\u00eb gjumit dhe i thot\u00eb: \u201cM\u00eb fal, duhet t\u00eb kisha b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Sepse problemi, si\u00e7 tregon nj\u00eb bised\u00eb me gruan e tij, \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht dhoma e gjumit. Menduam se n\u00ebse djali yn\u00eb q\u00ebndronte n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e gjumit, ai ishte i sigurt. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, jo. Pik\u00ebrisht n\u00eb at\u00eb dhom\u00eb gjumi, fal\u00eb nj\u00eb kompjuteri, ai ra n\u00eb kontakt me \u201cmanosfer\u00ebn\u201d dhe grupet e \u201ct\u00eb famsh\u00ebmve\u201d, ose komunitetet e incel\u00ebve (meshkujt q\u00eb tallen se nuk jan\u00eb t\u00ebrheq\u00ebs p\u00ebr femrat), mizogjen\u00ebve, seksist\u00ebve dhe t\u00eb dhunsh\u00ebmve.<\/span><\/p>\n

Natyrisht, m\u00eb pas jan\u00eb mediat sociale dhe bullizmi, krahasimet me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb cilat e p\u00ebrforcojn\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimin, por shqet\u00ebsimi lind q\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb. Asnj\u00eb ngush\u00ebllim nuk ka at\u00ebher\u00eb, as p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit e hutuar, as p\u00ebr ata m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebmendsh\u00ebm, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ndoshta kishin mashtruar veten se dhoma e gjumit ishte larg fshatit tashm\u00eb t\u00eb kalbur dhe se kalb\u00ebsia ishte mbi t\u00eb gjitha n\u00eb rrjetet sociale. Psikolog\u00eb dhe ekspert\u00eb t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm dit\u00ebt e fundit kan\u00eb formuluar shpjegime dhe k\u00ebshilla p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb mos p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb si familja Millers\u201d. Jan\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb vlefshme dhe duhen lexuar. P\u00ebr t\u00eb hequr qafe ndjenj\u00ebn e impotenc\u00ebs totale q\u00eb kisha n\u00eb fund, b\u00ebra edhe disa konsiderata t\u00eb tjera.<\/span><\/p>\n

K\u00ebrkoni edukim seksual<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Nuk ka dyshim se nj\u00eb nga temat e serialit \u00ebsht\u00eb mashkullor\u00ebsia. Jo vet\u00ebm Jamie, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebn hetim sidomos n\u00eb puntat\u00ebn e tret\u00eb me psikologen dhe ku dallohen dy fraza godit\u00ebse. Fillimisht kur Jamie thot\u00eb si pa t\u00eb keq: \u201cT\u00eb gjith\u00eb shikojn\u00eb porno\u201d, duke zbuluar t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn e path\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb \u00e7do prind i nj\u00eb 13-vje\u00e7ari duhet ta marr\u00eb si t\u00eb mir\u00ebqen\u00eb. E dyta \u00ebsht\u00eb pyetja e psikologes n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje t\u00eb ankesave nga turpi t\u00eb djalit p\u00ebr intimitetin: \u201cPo ti nuk b\u00ebn edukat\u00eb seksuale?\u201d<\/em>, q\u00eb n\u00eb Angli ka edhe nj\u00eb kuptim tjet\u00ebr.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ata e b\u00ebjn\u00eb at\u00eb atje, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb jo, dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb padyshim \u00ebsht\u00eb koha p\u00ebr t\u00eb nxitur m\u00eb shum\u00eb q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb futet n\u00eb shkollat e mesme. Ai episod shpjegon gjithashtu t\u00eb gjith\u00eb indoktrinimin e s\u00ebmur\u00eb t\u00eb Jamie si bullizues, teorin\u00eb se 80% e grave t\u00ebrhiqen nga vet\u00ebm 20% e burrave, koncepte t\u00eb njohura mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb shok\u00ebt e klas\u00ebs, miqt\u00eb dhe armiqt\u00eb e Jamie.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dhe sido q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse ka pasur edukat\u00eb seksuale n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb e kuptueshme se gjithsesi kjo tem\u00eb nuk diskutohet n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Shikoni vet\u00ebm v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsin\u00eb e kontaktit fizik midis babait dhe djalit n\u00eb episodin e par\u00eb, i cili p\u00ebrb\u00ebhet m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti nga p\u00ebrk\u00ebdheljet pas shpin\u00ebs. M\u00eb pas do t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb n\u00eb finale se traumat e Eddie, q\u00eb vjen nga nj\u00eb baba i dhunsh\u00ebm q\u00eb e kishte rrahur n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e Jamie, kan\u00eb mb\u00ebrritur tek djali i tij, si nj\u00eb virus q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb transmetuar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Asnj\u00eb model pozitiv mashkullor, patriarkal dhe maskulinitet toksik (babai q\u00eb nuk pranon brisht\u00ebsin\u00eb e djalit t\u00eb tij q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i zoti t\u00eb luaj\u00eb futboll) duhen adresuar p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr edukim seksual dhe edukim n\u00eb afektivitet, s\u00eb bashku me prind\u00ebrit. P\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb. Sepse edhe prind\u00ebrit e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve vajza nuk mund t\u00eb ndihen t\u00eb sigurt. Jamie thot\u00eb se ai iu afrua Katie kur ajo ishte m\u00eb e pambrojtur, sepse ajo i kishte d\u00ebrguar fotot e saj lakuriq nj\u00eb djali dhe imazhet ishin shp\u00ebrndar\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb shkoll\u00ebn.<\/span><\/p>\n

B\u00ebhu me ta, offline, por edhe online<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb Adam, djali i detektivit t\u00eb policis\u00eb, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr baba i munguar, i zhytur n\u00eb pun\u00eb q\u00eb nuk di asgj\u00eb p\u00ebr ngacmimet nga t\u00eb cilat po vuan i biri, i cili vizaton \u201cpanoram\u00ebn\u201d p\u00ebr t\u00eb atin. Pilula e kuqe q\u00eb mbyll nj\u00eb mesazh n\u00eb dukje t\u00eb bukur nga Katie n\u00ebnkupton \u201cpilul\u00ebn e kuqe\u201d,<\/em> gjuh\u00ebn e koduar t\u00eb incels. \u00cbsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb po e ngacmon n\u00eb rrjetet sociale, duke i dh\u00ebn\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetje n\u00eb thelb t\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb humburit\u201d pasi e kan\u00eb refuzuar (prind\u00ebrit e vajzave duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebri vigjilent\u00eb).<\/span>
\nPrind\u00ebrit, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb boomers, por Gen X dhe jan\u00eb dixhitalisht t\u00eb shkolluar, s\u00ebrish nuk mund t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb hapin me gjuh\u00ebn e adoleshent\u00ebve. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, ne duhet t\u00eb pyesim, dhe jo thjesht t\u00eb kontrollojm\u00eb nga distanca pozicionet n\u00eb hart\u00eb ose zemrat e vogla q\u00eb na sigurojn\u00eb kaq shum\u00eb. Shikoni videot q\u00eb shikojn\u00eb, flisni p\u00ebr to: jo aq p\u00ebr t\u2019i penguar t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb gabuar (kjo do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb), por p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur nj\u00eb dialog edhe p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra \u201ct\u00eb pak\u00ebndshme\u201d ose \u201ct\u00eb turpshme\u201d, p\u00ebr t\u00eb zhvilluar ndjeshm\u00ebri, p\u00ebr t\u2019u kushtuar pak koh\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

Shoku q\u00eb i dha Jamie thik\u00ebn dhe q\u00eb pyet n\u00ebse edhe ai do t\u00eb futet n\u00eb telashe shprehet:\u00a0<\/span>\u201cPrind\u00ebrit e mi nuk than\u00eb asgj\u00eb\u201d<\/em> pasi ai nuk ka dialog me prind\u00ebrit e tij. Por asgj\u00eb nuk merr m\u00eb shum\u00eb pik\u00eb sesa t\u2019i thuash f\u00ebmij\u00ebs t\u00ebnd: \u201cUn\u00eb jam me ty sot\u201d<\/em>, ashtu si\u00e7 b\u00ebn detektivi me djalin e tij duke e nxjerr\u00eb jasht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb, pas nj\u00eb dite n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn m\u00eb n\u00eb fund ka hapur syt\u00eb ndaj bot\u00ebs s\u00eb adoleshent\u00ebve. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kurr\u00eb von\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb filluar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gjeni nj\u00eb m\u00ebsues t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe flisni me t\u00eb<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u00ebsuesit n\u00eb film nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm: ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Duke qen\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga pun\u00ebt m\u00eb delikate n\u00eb bot\u00eb, duhet ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb vet\u00ebm njer\u00ebzit e frym\u00ebzuar dhe t\u00eb arsimuar. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, ne shohim vet\u00ebm drejtor\u00eb t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar (me iden\u00eb e krijimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb qendre sociale pas vrasjes s\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebses, drejtori pyet veten: \u201cA jemi edhe ne punonj\u00ebs social\u00eb?\u201d),<\/em> m\u00ebsues q\u00eb u b\u00ebrtasin nx\u00ebn\u00ebsve q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb pezullohen, t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb ikin nga klasa sa m\u00eb shpejt q\u00eb t\u00eb munden (\u201cF\u00ebmij\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm\u201d<\/em> thot\u00eb m\u00ebsuesja e shkoll\u00ebs fillore).<\/span><\/p>\n

Natyrisht, n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb caktuar hetuesi pyet kolegen e tij: \u201cA mendon se dikush mund t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb di\u00e7ka k\u00ebtu? Duket si nj\u00eb gardh kontrolli\u201d.<\/em> Por \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb na jep nj\u00eb fije shprese. Kur ajo e pyet se si i mbijetoi adoleshenc\u00ebs s\u00eb tij, detektivi p\u00ebrgjigjet: \u201cKam pasur nj\u00eb m\u00ebsues t\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d.<\/em> Dhe ka gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb. Mes profesor\u00ebve t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm, k\u00ebrkoni at\u00eb q\u00eb ju duket m\u00eb i v\u00ebmendsh\u00ebm, m\u00eb i p\u00ebrkushtuari, m\u00eb i p\u00ebrkushtuari ndaj kauz\u00ebs. P\u00ebr \u00e7do 6 m\u00ebsues t\u00eb dob\u00ebt, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ndoshta do t\u2019i b\u00ebjn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj t\u00eb mos m\u00ebsojn\u00eb, do t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb ndryshimin, me t\u00eb cilin mund t\u00eb krijoni nj\u00eb dialog, t\u00eb ndihmoni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<\/span><\/p>\n

A e ngush\u00ebllove veten pak, si un\u00eb? Epo, ne e dim\u00eb, askush nuk e ka formul\u00ebn magjike. Pa pasur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb vras\u00ebs, si prind\u00ebr ndoshta duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebrisim me vete mantr\u00ebn q\u00eb rekomandon psikologia: \u201cPo p\u00ebrpiqem t\u00eb zgjidh problemin e sot\u00ebm. Po p\u00ebrpiqem t\u00eb zgjidh problemin e sot\u00ebm\u2026\u201d.<\/em> \u00a9Vanity Fair, P\u00ebrshtati n\u00eb shqip LAPSI.al<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb e urt\u00eb e vjet\u00ebr afrikane thot\u00eb: \u201cDuhet nj\u00eb fshat p\u00ebr t\u00eb rritur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb\u201d. Po sikur fshati t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kalbur? Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb mendova pasi pash\u00eb \u201cAdoleshenca\u201d, serialin televiziv me 4 pjes\u00eb q\u00eb po thyen t\u00eb gjitha rekordet e transmetimit n\u00eb Netflix. Prind\u00ebrit pas filmit po kuptojn\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13062","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13062","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13062"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13062\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13062"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13062"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zennihost.com\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13062"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}